what if?

I was catching up with an old friend a while ago (a high school buddy as a matter of fact) and we got to talking about how much things have changed for us – particularly in the relationship, mentality and life goal sector. Apart from reminiscing the good times we’ve had in high school, we also reflected on the past and asked ourselves a couple of big “what if” questions. “What if we did things differently in high school?” “What if we pursed something entirely different and didn’t go down the route we chose?” “What if we’ve hung out with a different clique of friends back then?” These questions got me thinking about the decisions I have made in life and how it has shaped the person I am today… But at the end of the day, no matter how much I ask myself the same question, there is really no way of knowing what might have happened if I had done things differently back then. I can only wonder.

I have a couple of regrets in life but I believe everything be it good or bad happens for a reason. I’ve learnt from the mistakes that I’ve made in the past and the regret I have now mainly becomes the reason for me to move forward and help me not make the same mistakes that I’ve made. I think that everyone is emotionally and physically stronger than they think they are too. There are experiences that I’ve personally had that were painful and unfair but those relationships have affected my life in profound ways. I also think that that regardless of the setback, time heals all wounds, and before you know it, you would’ve regained all sense of control over your physical and mental self.

So my point is, I think that asking “what ifs” are inevitable but there really is no point in asking constantly asking yourself what would happen if things played out differently because it only stops you from thinking and moving forward. And of course no one wants to be stuck in the past so instead of focusing on what went wrong and what might have happened, I believe in positive thinking; taking action to improve yourself and looking forward. Optimism and happy affirmations might not necessarily bring you a life of ease and riches but at least it is a way of changing your mindset to look forward in life rather than stay completely trapped in your past. True story.

Anywaaaay, on a much lighter note… I’m in New York City again!!





I am in New York City for the month and while I am here, aside from snapping away and honing my photography skills, I am also trying to finish up a couple of new book and documentary recommendations. I love the city. It always feels so good to be back here with my little sister. People automatically recognize us as siblings no matter where we go. :)

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“Nothing on this planet can compare with a woman’s love—it is kind and compassionate, patient and nurturing, generous and sweet and unconditional. Pure. If you are her man, she will walk on water and through a mountain for you, too, no matter how you’ve acted out, no matter what crazy thing you’ve done, no matter the time or demand. If you are her man, she will talk to you until there just aren’t any more words left to say, encourage you when you’re at rock bottom and think there just isn’t any way out, hold you in her arms when you’re sick, and laugh with you when you’re up. And if you’re her man and that woman loves you—I mean really loves you?—she will shine you up when you’re dusty, encourage you when you’re down, defend you even when she’s not so sure you were right, and hang on your every word, even when you’re not saying anything worth listening to. And no matter what you do, no matter how many times her friends say you’re no good, no matter how many times you slam the door on the relationship, she will give you her very best and then some, and keep right on trying to win over your heart, even when you act like everything she’s done to convince you she’s The One just isn’t good enough.

That’s a woman’s love—it stands the test of time, logic, and all circumstance.Well, I’m here to tell you that expecting that kind of love— that perfection—from a man is unrealistic. That’s right, I said it’s not gonna happen, no way, no how.
Because a man’s love isn’t like a woman’s love.”

“All I’m telling you to do is to be smart about it. Know that if this man isn’t looking for a serious relationship, you’re not going to change his mind just because you two are going on dates and being intimate. You could be the most perfect woman on the Lord’s green earth-you’re capable of interesting conversation, you cook a mean breakfast, you hand out backrubs like sandwiches, you’re independent (which means, to him, that you’re not going to be in his pockets)-but if he’s not ready for a serious relationship, he going to treat you like sports fish.”
ー Steve Harvey; Act like a lady, Think like a man

Coachella Music Festival

Hippie at Heart. Hee Hee. My Coachella outfit!

Me x Johnson; Pool party in Palm Springs!